As the year winds down, many of us in private practice find ourselves doing a familiar dance: helping clients wrap up their therapeutic arcs, ensuring they’re well supported for the holidays, and feeling genuinely proud of the work they’ve done—while quietly wondering if we’ve offered ourselves even a fraction of that same care.

How our weekly shopping debates became a case study in how ADHD and expectations collide.

Every couple hits bumps in the road. Often, what causes the most distance isn’t one big issue — it’s the small habits, misunderstandings, or patterns that build up quietly over time. In my work with couples, I’ve noticed a few common themes that tend to get people stuck. Here are five of the most frequent mistakes I see — and some gentle ways to move towards better connection.

If you’re someone who finds traditional therapy settings overwhelming or difficult to engage with, please know that there are other ways to do this work. My approach is flexible, creative, and shaped around what helps you feel most at ease.

❤️ The H.E.A.R.T. Method: A Strategic Model for Rebuilding Connection and Trust When it comes to intimate relationships, even the most competent individuals can find themselves at a loss—looping through conflict cycles, emotional disconnection, or chronic miscommunication. Enter the H.E.A.R.T. Method: my model that blends the emotional intelligence of the Gottman Method with the insight of Transactional Analysis (TA).

In Transactional Analysis (TA), one of the most powerful concepts we work with is the idea of the Life Script—a kind of unconscious story we start writing in childhood, shaped by early messages, experiences, and emotional survival strategies. It’s not a story we consciously choose—but we do end up living it. Some people write bold, […]

Starting my own therapy practice in the UK was both exciting and daunting. I was finally stepping into the autonomy I’d dreamed of, but I quickly realised that being a skilled therapist doesn’t automatically make you a skilled business owner. Here are the top three mistakes I made when setting up—and what I wish I’d […]

Is this you? Are you coming towards the end of your training course, feeling enthusiastic and excited, but you’re not sure how to get started? New to private practice and feel overwhelmed at all the steps needed to set up and market your services. Perhaps you're yearning to leave your current job but worried about […]

What do we sacrifice to be accepted? In my latest article, Lost in Translation: The Right To Be Fully Seen, I explore the quiet, daily negotiations people make to navigate spaces that don’t always welcome difference. From LGBTQ+ individuals editing their language to stay safe at work, to families anglicising surnames to avoid prejudice, these […]

In private practice, one of the issues I see time and again is people-pleasing. Clients who bend over backwards to keep others happy, often without even noticing they’re doing it. And more often than not, it's driven by something Transactional Analysis (TA) calls the Please Others Driver. It's a powerful internal script, and for many […]

When I started out as a therapist, no one mentioned a business plan. In fact, tutors and peers warned me: if you’re in this work to make money, you’re in the wrong profession. The message was loud and clear: therapy is a calling, not a business. And while that’s true—therapy is about healing, connection, and service—it’s also a profession. If we want to show up fully for our clients, we need to build practices that are financially and emotionally sustainable. That means getting comfortable with the uncomfortable: talking about money, contracts, and boundaries. The Reality Over 60% of therapists report […]